Assumptions
The other day, my husband, his colleague & I were walking towards the car park after a function. My husband's colleagues' wife left earlier on as she had to rush else where. As we were walking towards the car, it so happened that I was chatting with my husband's colleague & my hubby was walking a step ahead of us.
Another lady who was getting inside her car, assumed that I was the colleagues wife, & said bye Pushpa! And I smiled & said I am not Pushpa! And she was totally embarassed.
This got me thinking as to how this lady just assumed that I was Pushpa just cos I was walking with her husband. And mind you, Pushpa looks much different from me...she is 'extra' small made & much shorter than me! How she took it for granted!
I then realised how we all take many things for granted and assume things sub consciously, albeit right or wrong. And we are so caught up in our own web that sometimes we fail to see the brighter side of things. Make a conscious effort not to drown in your own assumptions and reach out to the stars!
Another lady who was getting inside her car, assumed that I was the colleagues wife, & said bye Pushpa! And I smiled & said I am not Pushpa! And she was totally embarassed.
This got me thinking as to how this lady just assumed that I was Pushpa just cos I was walking with her husband. And mind you, Pushpa looks much different from me...she is 'extra' small made & much shorter than me! How she took it for granted!
I then realised how we all take many things for granted and assume things sub consciously, albeit right or wrong. And we are so caught up in our own web that sometimes we fail to see the brighter side of things. Make a conscious effort not to drown in your own assumptions and reach out to the stars!
posted by Has to be me @ 9:51 AM
47 Comments:
At 11:26 AM,
Pavithra said…
True !! This happens many times. We all seem to have a point of view and we fail to think otherwise. This sometimes leads to a lot of confusions. Even small assumptions matter.
Once, I remember how foolish my assumption was. I had packed lunch for my hubby and since I'm doing it all on my own only for a week now I was curious to know how did he like it. But, that night he came late and I slept well before and couldn't ask him abt this. The next day, I asked him what to pack for lunch (as there were 3 varieties of food). He told me "No curd rice please". Immediately, I assumed I did not make curd rice properly the previous day and that's why he doesn't want it. This was troubling me for 2 hours till I finally called him and clarified. He just laughed at my stupid assumption..me too ;-).
As long as we have predefined ideas, we make mistakes. But, the lady might have taken some more time to look at u before saying hi.
At 11:59 AM,
chitra said…
So true!!! sometimes these wrong assumptions lead to so much of disaster in relations!!
At 12:54 PM,
Anonymous said…
Assumptions are fine, as long as you take care to confirm it, before acting based on it.
With Best Regards,
Srijith Unni.
At 1:41 PM,
Anonymous said…
it was not really an assumption.....just that she didnt bother to even see who it was...and that is what we need to change...
when we meet people or greet them we dont even take a minute to do it properly or genuinely....
At 5:06 PM,
Ar Ar Ar Arrrrr said…
I assume lot of things in ma life...and would request not to get me started on this topic...coz that will be a good laugh for you then :)
At 5:37 PM,
Has to be me said…
Pavithra,
LOL @ ur assumption. Good that u got it clarified. It wud've been even worse to live with it! Predefined notions r what is not warranted.
Chitra,
Absolutely
Srijith,
Well said!
Chandni,
Yup guess she lacked that basic stuff in her!
z000nie,
Oh pls do share that with me! I desparately need a good laff!!! :))
At 5:45 PM,
mommyof2 said…
In your situation this is how INDIAN mind works.. If we see three people(2 guys a girl) together and whoever is standing closer to girl is considered her/his partner. Our minf refuse to think that they might be friends talking about their same interest whie her hubby is just standing doing something else.
I call is our narrow mindness blinding the way we think(My opinion)
At 7:10 AM,
starry said…
I think we all make assumptions sometimes but have to be careful in making the wrong one.
At 9:05 AM,
Sree said…
Happens all the time.. might be we are just tuned to such things, need to keep a tab on it though..
At 9:09 AM,
Keshi said…
some assumptions r harmless..only just embarassing. But some other assumptions can be very costly. Like taking things and people for granted.
Keshi.
At 9:17 AM,
Ram said…
Very true...Race, religion, social class, even by appearance - everyone and everything falls nicely into some slot which we have created and we continue on without really determining if we are right or wrong.
Its unfortunate that we have lost so many opportunities to make our life that much more richer, but its even more unfortunate that we are never even aware of our folly!
At 10:58 AM,
Has to be me said…
mof2,
Rightly said! Its more our indian attitude!
Starry,
Yes we shdnt make the wrong assumptions! Guess if we become more conscious abt it, we can avoid the same.
Sush,
Yes as long as we are aware of our state of mind it shdnt be so bad I guess!
At 11:02 AM,
Has to be me said…
Keshi,
Yes dear. Taking ppl fr granted is one arena which Im not for. But again it is how each individual is!
Ram,
Bang on dot! If we become more aware of our actions wld make things much better. :)
At 4:02 PM,
ishipishi said…
just dealing with sumthin to do wid "assumptions" and "takin for granted"...
good post...got me thinking...
At 5:32 PM,
Syam said…
I think you are generalizing ladies point of view :-)
ha ha ha koluthi potachu...inimel konja naalaiku abscond aaganum :-)
At 6:04 PM,
KK said…
Assumptions are the ones that add spice to this world...everything changes for good or bad based on the assumption made :)
Moreover if there were no assumptions then half the mathematical equations may not be solved :)
Syam, Paththa vechitiya parata... :)
At 7:20 PM,
gils said…
hahaha...syam anna...kalkitel pongo...unga shirt collor kaatunga..made in sivakasinu potruku pola...
ennoda maths sir adikadi use panra dialogue..."Dont Assume..it makes an Ass of u n me"...athila and me parta avar ushaara silent modela potruvaar
At 8:12 PM,
How do we know said…
Remember that exercise that happened on my blog lately? Thanks Has to be me, you gave me one more quotable example of mental assumptions :-)
Incidentally, it might be a gud idea to see what your assumptions are in different situations!
At 9:42 PM,
KK said…
Gils and HTBM,
//...."Inthaamaa..annava sevichuko" ithai kettu KK evlo "Sandosha" paduvar ;) //
Koncha naal leave'la pona supera kathai katti teenga??? anna'va???? school pledge'la vara "All indians are my brothers and sisters" line'a sonnathu illai naanu...yenna poi ippadi solli... :(
At 9:49 PM,
Patty said…
There is a saying that goes, "When you assume, you make an ass out of u and me." You make the point that there is truth to that statement. It is good to be reminded of this, and I thank you for it.
At 3:00 AM,
SeePearrl said…
assumptions ...sometimes cud be advantageous and sometimes fatal :P
but i would say "never assume things just liek that" its never gud!
At 5:36 AM,
Anonymous said…
Great Post! That is exactly right!
At 6:14 AM,
Itchingtowrite said…
some times assumptions really lead to embarassing situations but most of the time they shape the course of interaction with others. I guess these things are ingrained and difficult to eradicate. many exercies in workshops try to rid us of our arrumptions & make us think laterally.
At 10:42 AM,
Shanthi said…
illeenga naan kooda niraiyaa assume pannipaen : (
At 1:46 PM,
Ganesh Ranganathan said…
Many people(including me) are not very good at remembering faces. Maybe the lady was that kind....
At 2:20 PM,
Aditi said…
We shouldnt assume but we so often do. I am guessing that lady had never seen pushpa before or not much just remembered that his wife's name was pushpa right..
At 3:33 PM,
Movie Mazaa said…
And the mess-ups that one finds oneself embroiled in, thx to those seemingly petty assumptions are quite phenomenal!!!
:)
At 5:02 PM,
Has to be me said…
Ish,
Hope the outcome was gud! :)
Syam,
Generalize ellam onum ellai. Theres nothing like guys dont assume!
Kk,
Engayo poitaygo! Maths assumptions pathi ellam yarumay yoschirkamata! Anyway looks like u want to spice up ur life! ;)
At 5:04 PM,
Has to be me said…
Gils,
LOL@ made in sivakasi!
HDVK,
Absolutely! If v r conscious abt it, that wud surely help!
KK,
ha ha! Reminds me of rakhi day where all the guys will be undercover so that the girls dont tie rakhi to them!
At 5:05 PM,
Has to be me said…
Patty,
LOL@ the full form of assume!
WForest,
U mean to say we must assume assumptions with some assumptions?! confusing!!
Jon,
Thankie!
At 5:08 PM,
Has to be me said…
I2W,
Ya I;ve also seen & read some good fwds on lateral thinking. And it surely helps us coming out of the assumed syndrome!
Shanthi,
Adudhan romba assume panakoodadu!
Ganesh,
But thats little too much cos we r quite different from each other! And she had just seen here barely an hr ago!
At 5:09 PM,
Has to be me said…
Aditi,
LOL! wish it was true. But she knows puspha quite well!
Velu,
Yup all thanks to the assumed assumptions! :)
At 5:59 PM,
KK said…
For me even without hiding...no Rakhi's till date :) appadi oru personality yenakku ;)
At 11:03 PM,
Syam said…
//Theres nothing like guys dont assume//
yaaru KK va solreengala :-)
At 1:53 AM,
Hip Grandma said…
"I then realised how we all take many things for granted and assume things sub consciously, albeit right or wrong."
you are right there.It's time we stopped assuming and taking things for granted.
At 6:40 AM,
Prasanna Parameswaran said…
Ha! there are so many comments what more do I need to say! You just need to assume that I've given you a good comment :)
At 10:51 AM,
Has to be me said…
KK,
Yappo! So u r not brother material eh?! ;) Bayagaramana personality oh?!
Syam,
KK yum solarein!
HG,
Coming from an experienced person like u, thanks!
IA,
LOL! :)
At 11:38 AM,
Unknown said…
Assumptions can be disappointing many a time... With a splendid starcast & charttopping music, KJ disappointed us with KANK while with no well known names Mohit Suri had a winner in Kalyug.
Sometimes living upto assumptions people carry about you can be a big BURDEN!
Rashmi
At 5:11 PM,
smiley said…
we begin this assuming very early in life... maths, science... assume that X = Y then Y = ? what to do?
At 5:32 PM,
Has to be me said…
RT,
What a comparision! LOL! But true. Im yet 2 c KANK. Hope 2 c it soon!
Smiley,
Ya we r taught to assume! What 2 do?!
At 9:39 PM,
KK said…
Guys assume a no as no when a gal says no but actually she meant yes... :) Syam yenna sollureenga? (Thaniya naan mattum yeppadi adi vangurathu :))
Yenna pathi naane yeppadi pugazhnthukarthu.. :)
At 5:07 AM,
Anonymous said…
Assumptions are just like virus!!! It can be a dream or just an illusion from hot springs.
At 5:34 PM,
gils said…
aaha....assumptions vachi ivlo discussiona.... :) well...i for one always go for the wrong one.....true or false kostin vantha...correcta maathi select panuven...so if u want to knw the correct option..chk with me on wat i am favouring...
At 12:41 AM,
Anonymous said…
Intersting episode we laugh in our family : My dad and his dad were once walking together and a friend mentioned that did your brother come or nice to see the brothers together or something like that. So either my dad was old or my grandfather was so young to be tagged as brother. We still poke fun at my dad referring to this :)
At 12:21 PM,
Kalpana said…
Unknowingly, things do happen without our knowledge. Later, it's just embarassment.
At 12:38 PM,
Priyankari said…
A nice one and very true:)
At 9:50 AM,
Known Stranger said…
the most embarasment i had was when i was accompaning my cousin for her engagment while am still in college (she is only 2 years elder to me - very beautiful ehiehei ) while in train from kovai to kurala - one young couples just after honey moon at ooty was travelling in the opposite side of the birth we both were- My cousin fell ill ( pasalai naoi) and had a high temperature and cough so was takign care with myself awake at night - plenty of live show from the young couples - semmma kaddupu ennakku .. while few hours before entering into mumbai outskirts - we started talking and they asked - are you just returning from honey moon like us and when did you got married - semma embarsment kadduppu.. i didnt answer i just smiled - nakkal for my cousin - ya ya - marriage is next week just having some fun.
and i felt they got damn embarrised.
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