Watch ur words
Yet another short story which was told by a knowledgeable & spiritual person.
There was a man in the village who was very helpful & a kind hearted person. One day few saints were travelling past his village & hence this man invited them over for lunch.
While he was cooking their meal in his yard, an eagle flew past with a snake clenched in its feet. Unfortunately (& coincidentally) as the eagle had a strong grip of the snake's neck, the venom of the snake fell into the cooking pot. The man cooking wasn't aware of the same. He served the food to the saints and due to the venom, they all died.
A few days later there was another saint who was travelling through this village & wanted to be feed by this kind hearted man. So he enquired from an old lady the directions for his house. The old lady exclaimed - "O Saint, y do u want to go to the house of the person who killed other saints like u?"
Now the truth as we know, is the kind hearted man didnt kill the saints. Nor did the eagle or the snake intend to kill the saints. So God was wondering who should be responsible for the death of the saints?
And then He heard the old lady accusing the kind hearted man of killing the saints. By saying so, little did she realise that she was taking the blame of the death of those saints on herself. Because there was no one in reality to be blamed for the death of the saints.
And that is why we need to watch our words & not say something which in not true. If u do not know what the truth is, might as well keep quiet rather than say something that is not right. Do not spread unnecessary rumuors. Use speech for saying good & sweet things rather than gossip or unpleasant talk.
I am also reminded of Socrates' triple filter test (when we speak / gossip about another person).
1. Is there truth in what you say about the person you are talking of?
2. Is ur talk of any use or benefit to any one?
3. Is it any good that you are saying of the other person?
If the answers to these questions are negative, there is no point in speaking further about another person. This was what was told by Socrates.
So, do u watch your words?
There was a man in the village who was very helpful & a kind hearted person. One day few saints were travelling past his village & hence this man invited them over for lunch.
While he was cooking their meal in his yard, an eagle flew past with a snake clenched in its feet. Unfortunately (& coincidentally) as the eagle had a strong grip of the snake's neck, the venom of the snake fell into the cooking pot. The man cooking wasn't aware of the same. He served the food to the saints and due to the venom, they all died.
A few days later there was another saint who was travelling through this village & wanted to be feed by this kind hearted man. So he enquired from an old lady the directions for his house. The old lady exclaimed - "O Saint, y do u want to go to the house of the person who killed other saints like u?"
Now the truth as we know, is the kind hearted man didnt kill the saints. Nor did the eagle or the snake intend to kill the saints. So God was wondering who should be responsible for the death of the saints?
And then He heard the old lady accusing the kind hearted man of killing the saints. By saying so, little did she realise that she was taking the blame of the death of those saints on herself. Because there was no one in reality to be blamed for the death of the saints.
And that is why we need to watch our words & not say something which in not true. If u do not know what the truth is, might as well keep quiet rather than say something that is not right. Do not spread unnecessary rumuors. Use speech for saying good & sweet things rather than gossip or unpleasant talk.
I am also reminded of Socrates' triple filter test (when we speak / gossip about another person).
1. Is there truth in what you say about the person you are talking of?
2. Is ur talk of any use or benefit to any one?
3. Is it any good that you are saying of the other person?
If the answers to these questions are negative, there is no point in speaking further about another person. This was what was told by Socrates.
So, do u watch your words?
posted by Has to be me @ 8:43 AM
52 Comments:
At 10:04 AM,
Vishnu said…
I do! your honor ;)
Cheers!
:)
At 10:20 AM,
Aditi said…
Ok I understand the moral of the story. But I am not sure how the lady took it upon herself the blame ie
for she was simply stating the truth as she knew it. In her knowledge the saints died after eating that food, so she was trying to save someone's life
At 10:37 AM,
Janani said…
Good story....
=> watch our words <= Very much important. The thing which many never do.
At 11:03 AM,
Has to be me said…
Vishnu,
:) Thanx!
Aditi,
That is the truth which she has assumed. But in reality that is NOT the truth.
Janani,
Glad u liked it.
At 11:36 AM,
Artnavy said…
Very thought provoking- what will you to say to Filmfare and NDTV then? Sensationalists of the first order?
At 4:43 PM,
starry said…
I think if you dont have anything nice to say to a person, then dont say anything. I think gossip is worse than venom,especially if it is not true and it is unkind.I am always aware of the phrase. "words can be weapons".
At 5:12 PM,
Has to be me said…
Artnavy,
LOL! They r just into business & love 2 hype everything!
Starry,
Super good! :)
At 5:40 PM,
KK said…
I would agree with Aditi here, how come the old lady is blamed for the saints death? Based on facts she was right. I guess thats how even law works. So does it mean a judge becomes a sinner if he/ she convicts a innocent person? The judge just takes a decision based on the facts produced in front of him/her. Please correct me if I am wrong. :)
At 6:07 PM,
Syam said…
since there was no investigative media those days, what ever the old lady said was what she heard or what she knew about the death of the saints,so there is no point blaming the old lady rather god, why god didn't create these type of media awareness those days....hee hee :-)
At 7:16 PM,
Anonymous said…
Has to be me,That's a very interesting point you've got , though it's very hard to Tame the tongue .
I would end with a thought:words are all we've got to communicate apart from actions,I believe every word needs to be accounted for & ultimately ,how it is interpreted and carried out makes a lot of difference...:)
At 8:24 PM,
SCRIBBLEZ TO WAKEUP said…
Very good illustration...I am surely going to watch my back more actively..I really havent watched my words as I am more of am impulsive person but will train myself from now on..I surely am inspired!
At 9:01 PM,
Sree said…
gooooooooooooood one.. :-)
At 10:03 PM,
Hip Grandma said…
Good advice.We all would do well to follow it.Humans being what they are tend to forget.
At 2:17 AM,
s0ulasylum said…
i really liked the socrates' filter test..
only that it wd make my life n midnight conversations with my girlfriends like million times less colorful.. :P i know its bad. but harmless gossip is fine i gues.. the time it turns malicious is when you should stop.. :D
At 4:15 AM,
Keshi said…
Terrific post!
Great story too.
**1. Is there truth in what you say about the person you are talking of?
2. Is ur talk of any use or benefit to any one?
3. Is it any good that you are saying of the other person?
LOL I wish I could print this and give it to one of my aunts. All she ever does is judge EVERY single person and gossip abt them which is of no use to anyone anyways.
Talking ill abt others is an ugly trait.
Keshi.
At 4:33 AM,
Madhu said…
good one! i generally get into trouble when am excited....i end up using words the wrong way!! thankfully i havent been nasty to anyone...and am trying my best to slow down when am excited...but its kind of difficult.
At 4:59 AM,
Anonymous said…
Words can make a person sick out of mind.
Ippo ellam ethu sonnalum record agarthu illa. enna, namaku ellam buffalo sking madhiri thatitu poidurom meow meow.....
At 5:35 AM,
Junius said…
i agree with aditi,
though the mishap was an accident,
the kind hearted man is guilty of negligence
(u shudnt cook in open without a lid u know!)
At 11:02 AM,
gayathri said…
good lesson!!!
At 11:45 AM,
Has to be me said…
KK,
"Based on the facts, she is right". KK the fact is she does not know the truth. So how can she make a statement? And regd the judge, it is his responsibility to convict the wrong & not the innocent. Well, this is just my point of view! :)
Syam,
Onga vazhi thani vazhi! ;)
Lera,
Yup talk of tamin the tongue....not so easily esp when we are excited / emotional etc. Wish v cud tho!
At 11:47 AM,
Has to be me said…
Scribz,
Glad it inspired u! :)
Sush,
Thanx.
HG,
Ya, easier to forget when its more difficult!
At 11:50 AM,
Has to be me said…
s0ul,
Yup our girly talks are then no longer so much fun eh?! It is nice to spice up life isnt it?! ;)
Keshi,
Thanks gal. Maybe u shd give it 2 ur aunt! LOL! Yes talking ill of others is just not good @ all. Maybe if the person listening can cut off the topic & show disinterest, it might get better.
At 11:56 AM,
Has to be me said…
Madhu,
I wonder y such things r so difficult...tho it sounds so simple.
PRiya,
Absolutely.
Endevourme,
R u a lawyer by profession?! ;) Anycase u dont expect such things to happen. Pls c my comment fr KK.
At 3:06 PM,
Movie Mazaa said…
I try to, but sometimes words suddenly develop a life of their own, kick around my tongue for a few seconds, and hop out of my mouth - and yes! the damage has been done before I even know it!!
:D
At 3:42 PM,
Dh@v@! said…
not really... but i do try to watch my words...
BTW nice sotry n nice filter test...
At 4:18 PM,
Has to be me said…
Gayathri,
:)
Velu,
I know! Happens with me 2 @ times. Wish I'd a remote control to curb the unnecessary words! ;)
Dh@v@a!,
Good 2 note that u try 2 manage ur words. Glad u liked the filter test.
At 5:59 PM,
Anonymous said…
Oh WOW!!! GREAT STORY!!! Very inspiring!:o) Thank you so much for stopping by!
At 6:12 PM,
KK said…
Neenga sollurathu naala othukuren ;) hehehehe
At 9:41 PM,
Scoot said…
wow!everyone should follow this :)
At 10:54 PM,
Innocent Devil....Yet not so innocent ;) said…
Heh dear i have started a new blog http://jaan-ki-sweetheart.blogspot.com/...Do check them out
At 11:23 PM,
Harish said…
Yeah...I hate rumors. I mean....for fun is ok...like we do abt our friends sighting someone and its forgotten instantly...but malice....neah...never....
At 4:56 AM,
Me too said…
Guess, I will accept the story for its moral! (Old lady's point of view could be filter no. 2) Anyway, circumstantial victim!!
Good post!
At 5:36 AM,
Rajesh &Shankari said…
So so true...
At 7:07 AM,
Itchingtowrite said…
so true. some one i knew used to say thet u can never be the 1st person to tell any one abt your news. the person would have already heard it from someone else!
At 7:48 AM,
Junius said…
i am not a lawyer hehe
i agree with the post but not the story
i think she is not guilty,
she was just warning others, see precaution is always better naa,,,
At 11:34 AM,
Sunil Parashar said…
wow!!!
That was a lovely story by the lovely owner of a lovely blog..:)
At 12:02 PM,
Has to be me said…
Jon,
Glad that u enjoyed! :)
KK,
Ahaaa, thnx! :)))
Maya,
Wish it were that easily feasible!
At 12:35 PM,
Keshi said…
yeah thats right.
btw if ur going away the whole of next week, well TC n have lots of fun. HUGGGGGGGGGGGGZ!
Keshi.
At 2:33 PM,
Has to be me said…
vsv,
Shall check it out!
Harish,
Thats good. Ya malice is just not good. Bad 4 health too.
Me too,
The point is we shdnt get victimised by the circumstance.
At 2:35 PM,
Has to be me said…
Shankari,
U back frm ur holiday? :)
I2W,
LOL!
Endevourme,
U can always warn others if it was true but w/o knowing the truth she cant accuse someone. :)
At 2:39 PM,
prithz said…
Good one!!! I watch my words... more than that i need to watch my temper.. which mite sometimes, jus let loose words outta my mouth.. so whenever i have bad temper, i blare music and sit down with my fav book.. so that i dutn open my mouth!! LOL!!
At 2:46 PM,
Has to be me said…
Sunil,
Welcom here & thnx for the compliments.
Keshi,
Thank u dear. Same 2 ya!
Prithz,
Good way to keep check! :)
At 4:32 PM,
How do we know said…
Great one boss!!
How have u been?
At 6:23 PM,
mommyof2 said…
I love the way you tell stories.. intersting way and you are spreading great knowledge & making change in everyone who is reading(at least me;-)
btw did you read my respond of your old post of kabhi kabhiII?:-)
At 7:08 AM,
golmaalgopal said…
very rightly said....socrates test was gr8...
//1. Is there truth in what you say about the person you are talking of?
2. Is ur talk of any use or benefit to any one?
3. Is it any good that you are saying of the other person?//
well it's no good talking if d answer's no to ANY of these questions...not necessary ALL...
At 9:06 AM,
Has to be me said…
HDVK,
Thanks dear.
Mommy of 2,
Thanks for the lovely words. :))). Yes ofcourse I did read ur response to kabhi kabhi! But I think I just missed posting the reply to the same. Sorry abt that. And I did enjoy the same as well!
Golmal,
Yes indeed!
At 9:10 AM,
Twisted DNA said…
"Socrates' triple filter test"
Hmm.. If I follow that I probably won't have anything to talk ;)
But you are right, we need to be careful of what we say, because we can't take the words back... ever!
At 10:14 AM,
Anonymous said…
full of wisdom...damn hard to comply with :)
At 1:18 PM,
Patty said…
Do you have any idea how quiet the world would be if we all practiced those three steps before speaking?
It would be so quiet we could all hear ourselves think for a change, which might encourage more thinking before speaking, etc..., etc...
At 1:18 PM,
Patty said…
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At 3:42 PM,
Butterflies said…
wonderful one!!real gud!!!!!
At 3:53 AM,
gils said…
hmmm....soober post..i used to be uncontrollably sensitive and short tempered...ipo konjam theritennu makkal solraanga...i started listening to lot of music and whenever i get angry i wud try to esc frm tt plc for a min...if i cant i wud stop talking for a min...either way the danger time passes...its tt first one min which is the crucial part i guess..if u can hold ur tongue in tt time..u r thru...
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